‘Tis the Season to Be Jolly…. Fa La La La La La La La Laaaaaaaaaa…
‘Tis the season for twinkle lights, traditions, Santa sightings, family and friends gathered around for dinners and party fun.
‘Tis the season for giving and receiving gifts and tokens of affection, candies and cookies and everything sweet.
Unless…. you get your tinsel in a tangle!
It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle and rush of the holiday season.
It is busy a time of celebration, or just the busy time of the ending of the year, depending on what your beliefs are.
Here’s the thing. Yes, its easy to get your tinsel in a tangle. Here’s the other thing. It’s awful to be around a jerk on any day of the year, but even more so at the holidays.
Yes, I said jerk. It’s what people think of us while we are busy excusing ourselves of being too busy, harried, worn out, grumpy, fussy, curt, overly bossy, dismissive, snarky during the holidays.
Here’s another brick wall to run into…
The holidays are scheduled at the same time every year. Exactly the same time. Every year.
That’s a blessing, a golden opportunity to plan well. We know when the holiday season is. We all can benefit from some advance planning. This includes me, too! We have all heard that old saying “failing to prepare is preparing to fail”, right?
My best holiday no-tinsel-in-a-tangle tip? Do your best to prepare well for the holiday season. Start early. Stay organized. Use a planning calendar. Make a list. Check it twice. No, really, check it twice. It’s then when you remember that extra thing you forgot when you made the list the first time.
Another tip: delegate. Even little helping hands in the home can help. My Christmas Village never looked more inviting than when my son put it up and thoughtfully placed the little villagers all through the town. Delegate.
Here is another no-tangle-in-the-tinsel-tip for the busy holiday season: pencil in free time. Take this time to care for yourself. It isn’t selfish or self-centered to take a break, take a nap, paint your nails, take a time out, or to watch Elf. No guilt. Even better, take a half hour and help someone. The needs during the holidays are plentiful. You will be blessed for it. Whatever it takes to restore the holiday magic. Well deserved, well worth it.
Now. It’s the first week of December. If you are the sweet friend who is looking around and a bit panicked because there is only half of a tree put up in your living room, you can’t find the family stockings, you forgot the office party was today at 5:30, etcetera, because of unexpected life events or health issues or family complications, this is for you.
When life gets in the way and throws some curveballs, it’s ok to be caring of yourself and your family and your schedule. It really is ok. It is ok to be caring of yourself and your family and your schedule during a difficult time.
The sweet news, from someone who has experience in a few holiday curveballs is this: you will be gifted with holiday magic and true love in your time of need.
The neighbors will understand why you sincerely decline the invitation to the block party. They will also send over a plate of party food. I promise.
Your co-workers will understand and will be creative. They may let you chip in on their gift, or know the baker who can bring a last minute cookie tray, or cover the phones, or run out with you at lunch to grab what you need.
The Sunday School class leader will understand that you can’t attend the sing-along at the retirement home. She will not only pray with you and for you, she will show up with a helping hand and a most likely a flower arrangement from the class.
The girls of your Holiday Girls Night Out will understand why there is only half a tree in your living room, why it’s upsetting, and will come over to put the rest of the tree up, decorate it, and vacuum, too. They will give you hugs. That’s what friends are for. Really.
Cheers to you! Cheers to a No-Tinsel-In-A-Tangle Holiday Season for you and yours, from me and mine. May your days be merry and bright now through the New Year.